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Defeating Back Pain Forever
By: Jim O’Connor – The Fitness Promoter August 21, 2005
(c) Jim O’Connor / Wellness Word, LLC – All Rights Reserved
Back pain, one of the most common physical, and debilitating ailments today,
affects 70% – 80% of us at one time or another in our lives. However, as a result of the obesity
epidemic, that number continues to climb. So if you are suffering or have suffered from back pain,
you are not alone!
Back pain suffers, resulting from wear and tear and the aging process, generally are over 40 years of age; but it is not uncommon for individuals in the 30’s to experience back challenges. The complex spine changes during aging at varying rates from individual to individual as determined by genetic factors, lifestyle choices, and prior injuries.
Just remember, the odds are in your favor that you will experience some sort of back pain in the future.
So what do you do when that happens, and how do you prevent it from happening again? There lies two, seventy two million dollar questions.
First off, don’t panic! Over 95% of back pain does not require surgery, and will subside on its own anywhere from a couple of days to months. With the back, it is rather tricky to predict how quickly it will heal. Be patient, and keep positive!
Please be aware that some chronic back conditions such as spinal stenosis, spondylosis, and osteoarthritis may never completely heal without a physicians care. Symptoms generally come and go, and then come and go again, where the recipient learns to manage the condition with medication, exercise, physical therapy, spinal blocks, and/or surgical intervention. Treatment all depends on the severity of the condition as determined by the physician’s interpretation of the X-Ray, and/or MRI.
Recovery Tips-
1. Avoid motions that irritate it, but don’t stay in bed for days on end which will weaken you
2. Ice for the first 48 hours, then apply a heating pad thereafter. 15-20 minutes at a time
3. See your doctor if pain persists longer than 1 week.
4. Follow pain medication recommendations (such as NSAIDS)
5. Light massage, and pain free range of motion stretching
6. Light walking (no hills) can help
7. Physical Therapy- massage, electric muscle stimulation, ice, heat, exercise, stretching
8. Pool therapy
9. Don’t panic! Be patient! Most cases will get better over time.
10. KEEP MOVING (pain free movement) is the KEY!
Now that you are managing your back pain, let’s focus on preventing it from occurring
again. Depending upon the severity of your specific back condition, you can decrease the chance
of returning pain, manage ongoing pain, or possibly prevent a reoccurrance. But HOW?
“The Secret Answer” – EXERCISE CORE MUSCLES in synergy with your particular condition.
Your goal should be to safely strengthen your core muscles to the max. The core muscles keep you upright, balanced, and able to maintain your spine in a stable position. The muscles that need to be worked are the back, legs, abdominals, and hips. By keeping these muscles strong, and flexible, it will provide a more secure base adding protection for a vulnerable spine. Warning: if you don’t strengthen your core, the older you get, the weaker your muscles become, and the more vulnerable you will be to pain.
When I mention exercise the core, I am referring to doing the proper exercises for specific conditions. It is impossible for me to tailor this prevention protocol for everyone, since each person needs their own specific program with medical team input. However, I will give you a few basic back strengthening tips. In correlation with your specific condition, you must clear specific exercises with your health care team.
Prevention Tips-
1. Stay active – use back smart exercises on a regular basis
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2. While walking and exercising, maintain proper spinal alignment (good posture)
3. Keep your weight under control
4. Don’t smoke
5. Strengthen your core muscles
6. Keep the muscles limber and stretched
7. Do cardiovascular exercise ( ex. walk) on a regular basis.
8. Lift with proper form (use legs); proper spinal alignment
9. Contract abdominals throughout the day to protect spine as well as strengthen supporting muscles
10. Avoid the following:
Straight leg sit-ups
Bent leg sit-ups during acute pain
Leg lifts (lifting both legs while lying on your back)
Walking at a high incline
Lifting heavy weights above your waist (shoulder press, standing bicep curl)
Any stretches done while sitting with your legs in a V position
Toe touches while standing
Running or repetitive stair climbing
Excessive spine twisting, and bending
My intention for writing this article is to inform you there is hope. You can get over back
pain, and do certain things to prevent it from returning, or returning with more intense symptoms.
Note: Please consult a physician for clearance prior to starting an exercise program.
6 Fun Fitness Activities…
by: Kathy Burns-Millyard
Exercising and staying fit doesn’t have to mean hard work. Simply being active will help you get or stay in good shape. So with that said, here are some enjoyable activities that can help with your fitness goals too.
Bicycling
When you ask many adults when the last time they rode a bike is, they cannot answer. Although bicycling is a favorite pastime, many adults do not take advantage of this great option for exercise. Not only does bike riding exercise the body and build a stronger cardiovascular system, it allows you to get out and enjoy nature, fresh air, and see new sites.
Jogging or Walking
Both jogging and walking are GREAT ways to get fit. Not only do they tone the muscles, relieve stress, create a healthier heart, and improve lung capability, they make you look wonderful, which in turns helps you get excited about doing other exercise for fitness activities.
Swimming
Swimming is an excellent way to get into and stay in shape. If you do not own a pool, many high schools have aquatic centers, or there is always the YWCA or YMCA, or your local gym. Many offer water aerobic classes that will help you tighten your body, lose weight, and get a good overall workout.
Tennis Anyone?
Tennis is not only a fun sport, but also a great way to exercise. You do not have to be a Venice Williams to play; in fact, you do not even have to be good. Just running after the ball alone will help get you into shape. This is a great way to strengthen your cardiovascular system and lose weight. You can find tennis courts in just about every city and if you would like to play but have no idea how, lessons are reasonable.
Tip: Raquetball is sort of a “one person tennis”. If you don’t have someone to play tennis with, or you aren’t feeling sociable, try raquetball instead.
Dancing
Dancing is so much fun and whether you enjoy a slow, Ballroom dance or a nightclub packed with people all moving to heart-pumping techno, as long as you are moving, it really does not matter what type of dance or music. The whole idea is to move your body. Dancing has long been recommended as an avenue to fitness.
Tip: Belly Dancing is an excellent workout for your stomach, waist and hips ladies!
VCR
If you have a VCR or DVD, rather than just using it for your favorite comedy or action-packed movie, try sticking in some good workout tapes. Even taking 15 minutes every day to work out will get you started. Try that for two weeks and you will be surprised at the results. Once you see that 15 minutes a day makes a difference, you will be encouraged to increase the time spent.
And one of my personal favorites… Yardwork!
Whether you’re pulling weeds, planting flowers, mowing the grass or chopping wood: All of these activities can help you get into better shape. Don’t cheat yourself though. Using a riding mower to cut the grass won’t help you use the muscles or get your blood pumping 
So go out and get active, have fun, and work on getting or staying fit too!
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400,000 Reasons to Stop Smoking
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by: Kathy Burns-Millyard
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from The Health and Fitness Information Network http://www.health-and-fitness-information.com Most of us know that smoking is indeed a habit that can have many serious implications on our health, but there’s a tendency to view the problem lightly. It’s important though, that every smoker be aware of the facts concerning smoking. So here are some eye openers for you… The World Health Organization has been studying smoking trends and statistical patterns across the globe and has come up with the following statistics: A good deal of variation exists from one part of the world to another. Many more women smoke in Eastern Europe than in East Asia and the Pacific Region. Eastern Europe itself has a particularly high rate of smoking, with up to 59 percent of adult males smoking. As with other substances of abuse, such as alcohol and cocaine, the global frequency of tobacco use varies by social class, historical era, and culture. Historically, smoking had been a pastime of the rich. This trend has changed dramatically in recent decades. It appears that economically advantaged men in wealthier countries have been smoking less. The more years of education you’ve had, the less likely you are to be a smoker. Most smokers begin early in life, before they are 25 years old. According to World Health Organization studies, the majority of smokers in affluent countries begin in their teens. A decline in the age of starting smoking has been observed worldwide. As a wannabe quitter, you’re in excellent company. People all over the world are trying to quit and stay away from cigarettes. There appears to be a correlation between a country’s standard of living, level of education, and income and the number of people who have quit smoking. The more and better-informed people are, the more likely they are to quit smoking. Current estimates are that over 1 billion people in the world smoke. (In other words, approximately one in three adults on the planet smokes.) The majority of these smokers reside in countries on the low end to the middle of the socioeconomic spectrum. Of this majority, about 80% live in low and middle income countries. The total number of smokers worldwide is expected to keep increasing. But are things in the USA any better? Not really, as you can see for yourself in the figures of National Health Interview Survey (NHIS), Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Health Statistics In the United States, an estimated 25.6 million men (25.2%) and 22.6 million women (20.7%) are smokers. These people are at higher risk of heart attack and stroke. The latest estimates for persons age 18 and older show: - Among whites, 25.1 percent of men and 21.7 percent of women smoke - Among black or African Americans, 27.6 percent of men and 18.0 percent of women smoke - Among Hispanics/Latinos, 23.2 percent of men and 12.5 percent of women smoke - Among Asians (only), 21.3 percent of men and 6.9 percent of women smoke - Among American Indians/Alaska Natives (only), 32.0 percent of men and 36.9 percent of women smoke Studies show that smoking prevalence is higher among those with 9-11 years of education (35.4 percent) compared with those with more than 16 years of education (11.6 percent). It’s highest among persons living below the poverty level (33.3 percent). And These Figures Spell Death… · One out of every five deaths is caused by tobacco · An average of 400,000 Americans die each year from tobacco · Tobacco is blamed for many serious pulmonary and cardiovascular diseases · Tobacco and nicotine are some of the most potent carcinogens and are to blame for a majority of all cancers of the lung, trachea, bronchus, larynx, and esophagus · Tobacco use also produces cancers in the pancreas, kidney, bladder, and cervix · Impotency is sometimes to blame from addiction to nicotine because of its ability to reduce blood flow · Smoking is an important risk factor for respiratory illnesses, causing 85,000 deaths per year from pulmonary diseases such as chronic obstructive pulmonary disease and pneumonia · Children and adolescents who are active smokers will have increasingly severe respiratory illness, as they grow older · Smoking during pregnancy causes about 5-6% of prenatal deaths, 17-26% of low-birth-weight births, and 7-10% of pre-term deliveries, and it increases the risk of miscarriage and fetal growth retardation · Cigarettes are responsible for about 25% of deaths from residential fires, causing nearly 1,000 fire-related deaths and 3,300 injuries each year So, are you ready to try and quit smoking now? Visit http://www.health-and-fitness-information.com/Quit-Smoking/ to learn how you can finally quit smoking fast, easily, and all naturally! About the author: This article is provided courtesy of http://www.health-and-fitness-information.com- You may freely reprint this article on your website or in your newsletter provided this courtesy notice and the author name and URL remain intact. |
5 Truths About Fear: What Fear Doesn’t Want You To Know
We fear being alone; we fear being crowded. We fear the doctor; we fear living with health problems. We fear the opposite sex; we fear not knowing the opposite sex. We fear making decisions; we fear of not making an impact. We fear problems; we fear opportunities. We fear failure; we fear success. We fear job interviews; we fear unemployment. We fear asserting ourselves; we fear not asserting ourselves. We fear being pushed; we fear being pulled. We fear breaking up a relationship; we fear staying in the relationship. We fear meeting someone; we fear meeting no one.Wow! Talk about a crazy list of contrasting fears! The truth about fears is they are crazy and irrational. What fears do you experience which you think are unique to you? What are the fears that drive you crazy?
As you’ve seen in the beginning of this article, we fear one side of the story while at the very same time we can fear the other side of the story. It is possible to fear talking to someone new, and fear not meeting new people, at the same time because fear hides the truth.
The experiences fear gives you are a smoke screen. It makes you irrational. Fear hides the truth from you. Literally, the acronym for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear doesn’t want you to know the truth about itself and yourself.
The fears we experience are immobilizing. They paralyze us from taking action and achieving what we want. We can want something, but fear sends what seems like the equivalent of a massive electromagnetic pulse through our body as it shuts down our physical functioning.
According to Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, there are five truths about fear. Whatever it is you fear, provided that the fear is not physically dangerous like doing drugs, the following five truths apply:
Truth #1
The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
Our ancestors experienced fear because they were threatened from dangerous animals or life threatening environments. Fear has its evolutionary purpose as it serves to protect. Whatever it is you fear, the fear tricks you into thinking it is danger. It tells you the thing you fear will cause pain. It tricks you into thing you won’t be able to handle it.
Don’t be one of those people who expect to live a fearless life. As Thomas Leonard so bluntly and wonderfully put it, “Fear is natural. Be with it.” Fear can, and will, diminish in the things which you immerse yourself. However, once you explore new unknown territory, new fears will arise. I know it isn’t nice to hear that, but I’m hear to tell you the truth about fear that fear doesn’t want you to know. It is far more comforting and exciting to experience growth and live in fear than to live paralyzed by fear.
Truth #2
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
Truth number two sounds contradictory to truth number one, but be assured that both truths are still truths. Fear will always exist in your life, but it doesn’t have to exist in the things that you do. When we do the thing we fear, whether it was a facade or not, we come to build confidence in our ability to handle the situation. Fear decreases.
We fear because uncertainty looms in our ability to handle what gets delivered to us. “Fear comes from uncertainty.” said William Congreve. “When we are absolutely certain, whether of our worth or worthlessness, we are almost impervious to fear.”
Anthony Robbins said, “Do what you fear, and the death of fear is certain.” Action will conquer fear any day of the week, month, and year of your life. By acting in the face of fear, you transform the uncertain into the certain as the unknown becomes known.
Truth #3
The only way to feel better about myself is to go out and do it.
When filled with a fear, we reason to ourselves that we will take action when we feel better about ourselves. “When I’m ready, I’ll…” “If I can… then I’ll…” “I’ll wait till I’m…” Stop waiting for whatever it is you are wanting to change. Change your ability to take action.
While self-esteem boosts you ability to take action, go the quicker and more direct route: take action to boost your self-esteem. The feelings of confidence will then build on themselves, like a good financial investment, leading to more and more positive feelings about yourself. Stop wanting to be a fearless public speaker before doing public speaking. Do public speaking to be a fearless public speaker.
The myth of truth number three, “I’ll feel better about myself before doing it”, is reverse thinking to the truth. You will not feel a better person, or have more self-belief in your ability, until you do the thing which you fear. It is when you dive into action that you begin to feel good about yourself; not the other way around.
Truth #4
Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.
It is very comforting and reassuring to hear truth number four. Reassuring statements have a danger to delude one from reality and the hard truth. Nonetheless, it is truth that everyone else experiences fear in unfamiliar territory. Every public speaker and writer I have known suffers, or suffered, from fears and insecurities of the judgments of others.
Fear is hardwired into the human mind. Fear wants you to think that your fears are unique psychological problems. Fear is an educational problem. Draw comfort from knowing that those around you, and those who you envy, also experience or once experienced the very fear you feel is unique to you. It is the insecurities we feel and deem unique to us that unite us.
Truth #5
Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
Although fear encompasses uncertainty, the certainty of living a fearful life is more scary. The fear of being ill is more scary than seeing a doctor. The fear of having a divorce is more scary than addressing a tough relationship problem. The fear of having no friends is more scary than approaching someone. “Courage is not the absence of fear,” said Ambrose Redmoon, “but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.”
Repeat each of these truths at least 20 times every morning and night. When you continually affirm the truth, you will accept it as truth. You will no longer be tricked by fear. I’m excited to have finally revealed the truth about fear to you.
Don’t let fear fool you. It is after all False Evidence Appearing Real. Follow the five truths in this article and you will see the light which fear hides from your eyes. The truth exists, you just need to see it. Live a fear-filled life!
Why Smart People Have Poor Communication Skills – And What To Do About It
On October 23, 1990, David Pologruto, a high school physics teacher, was stabbed by his smart student Jason Haffizulla. Jason was not a teenager you think would try to kill someone. He got straight A’s and was determined to study medicine at Harvard, but this was his downfall. His physics teacher gave Jason a B, a mark that Jason believed would undermine his ability to gain entry into Harvard. After seeing he received a B, Jason took a butcher knife to school and stabbed his physics teacher before being reprimanded in a struggle.
Two years following the incident in a New York Times article covering this story, it was reported that Jason raised his grade to 4.614, a grade that exceeds the perfect average of 4, by taking advanced courses. He graduated with highest honors.
How can someone as smart as Jason do something so dumb? Jason received above perfect grades and still emotionally lost himself by trying to severely wound his teacher. The answer? Smart can be dumb. I’m not saying smart is communication dumb, but in this article we’ll look at how intellectual intelligence can hurt the person’s emotional life, as studies show there is little or no direct relation between I.Q. and emotional intelligence.
This article may generate a fair bit of controversy, but I feel I give a balanced discussion in sharing my experience, knowledge, and getting you to think deeply about the topic. Whether you are intelligent, “mentally-challenged,” or curious about this topic in understanding those smart people in your life, I’m sure you’re bound to get some useful advice out of this article.
Being a somewhat smart guy myself, it’s painful to hear that intelligence, such a useful characteristic to possess, may be harmful. It is tough to imagine a quality that is so highly praised by everyone is detrimental to communication. For this reason, take a deep breathe now, relax, and open your mind to the possibilities of bettering your communication to improve your life.
During my early university years, I regarded myself as an intelligent guy. I was no Einstein, but I would get good marks in Mathematics, Physics, and other technical subjects. This lead me into starting a degree in Engineering, majoring in Mechatronics – an area of study that integrates mechanics, electronics, and computing. Basically, I would be able to design robotics and cybernetic systems – the wave of the future. Surely such skills would give me an edge in life.
After one year of study with decent marks, I began to see two major classes of students. The first was ones who would turn up to few lectures, party every weekend, enjoy a great social life, and do the minimum work to pass courses. The second class of students were intelligent, hard workers, got good grades, and were very focused on their studies. Surely these intelligent and hard working students would be the ones to get the jobs over the other, more “lazier,” class of student?
Not so. Students are often shocked when graduating that their qualifications are not as important as they once thought. They are guided to believe that their academic knowledge is all they need to get a great job and be successful. Students think that all power and success is derived from intelligence. Howard Gardner in Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences defines various types of intelligence and emphasizes that schools are too focused on logic and linguistic intelligence.
Graduates enter the workforce only to realize that co-workers hate them, less intelligent people are receiving promotions over them, and “suck-up” behaviour to the boss doesn’t get them very far. The students have the “hard skills” such as technical know-how, but they lack the “soft skills” such as conflict management and other human relational skills. The transition for intelligent people from being very goal-oriented to being process and people-oriented is usually realized through the hard school of knocks – experience.
If you’ve had some experience in hiring people, you know the importance of people skills. Without people skills, the educational skills become less useful. Sure, you can have great ideas, theories, and solve complex problems, but if you can’t effectively communicate that material in a persuasive and exciting manner by relating to your fellow human being, then you’re facing an uphill battle in whatever challenges you encounter. It’s not that people will dislike you because of your intelligence; it’s that people will dislike you because you’re rude, not understanding, or annoying to be around. The intelligent person with poor communication skills is insensitive, or just unaware, of another’s emotions.
Hopefully I can reveal the elusive obvious to you in this little exercise. I want you to think back to primary school or high school. Perhaps even college. Select the most memorable class to you.
I want you to categorize, and roughly rank, class members’ based on two sets of criteria: intelligence and popularity. You don’t need to go through every class member, but recall those at the end of each spectrum. That is, remember those who were the smartest in the class and those who were the most popular in the class. On a scale of one to ten, with ten being the highest, give a person a rank of ten in intelligence if you feel they were the most intelligent in the class. For the students who had lots of friends, give them a ten in the popularity category. Try to categorize roughly six students. If you have problems remembering, quickly write the ranks down on paper.
Now, with those students who you have ranked in one category, I want you to rank them in the other category. So if you’ve ranked the smartest student as a ten in the intelligence category, give the person a rank that you feel is appropriate in the popularity category. Do the same for the students you ranked in the popularity category.
Now that you’ve got several people in each of the two categories, think about the difference between each student. The purpose of getting you to do this exercise is in seeing the contrast between intelligence and people skills.
Genius Failure Paradox
Chances are if you are like most people and I, you would have noticed something distinguishable from doing the exercise. Those who were smartest in the class were generally not very popular due to poor social skills (I’m sure there are other similar measurements of poor communication than just popularity). They didn’t have good people skills. Presumptuous? I don’t think so.
This doesn’t mean all intelligent people have poor people skills or that all the unintelligent people have good people skills. I know people will say, “But I know someone who is smart and great with people.” Good. So do I. Intelligence and people skills aren’t mutually exclusive characteristics! Having one doesn’t mean you can’t have the other.
What I’m proposing, which has been touched on and backed by a couple of authors and teachers, is that academically intelligent people may have poorer people skills than others. The genius failure paradox describes this in stating that smarter, wealthier, or generally people who have feelings of superiority, refuse to seek help in dealing with people. I’ll continue to explain why this is so throughout the article. (You can read more about superiority, inferiority, and the self-image.)
Saying that intelligence doesn’t equal success is nothing new. Daniel Goleman in his book Emotional Intelligence, says that IQ is too narrow for indicating success. Your emotional intelligence is summarized in understanding your own emotions and the emotions of others. The implications of emotional intelligence are profound in communication and many areas in life. In his book he says, “Emotional Intelligence is a master aptitude, a capacity that profoundly affects all other abilities, either facilitating or interfering with them.”
Beginning at Childhood
A study titled Reading Difficulties, Behavior, and Social Status that was published in the Journal of Educational Psychology, found that 81% of children referred to aggression and social behaviour as the number one reason for disliking another child. As children age, the researchers found that a child’s academic performance increased their peer acceptance.
The study also found that achievement and other factors are influential to peer acceptance. We do need to keep in mind that peer acceptance doesn’t equate to just social skills. Peer acceptance can increase due to one variable that is completely unrelated to communication. What we can take out of this study, is that right from the beginning of our social interactions, we are liked or dislike based on our behaviour and social skills.
Herpreet Kaur Grewal in an article titled Lack of Social Skills Can Make Poor Even Poorer, refers to a study done by the Institute for Public Policy Research. The study confirms that the economy is making interpersonal skills just as important as academic skills. She says, “Those with good social skills born into poor families are 14% more likely to be well-off by age 30 than a similarly under-privileged person with average social skills.” The study presents a few interesting points that are worth noting for the purpose of this article.
Firstly, social skills and other communication skills were found to be more important later on in life. Maybe you’ve experienced the same thing. When you were young, you could get away with yelling at other kids. You could even have a physical fight with little or no repercussions. However, should you punch someone at work in the face tomorrow (I hope I haven’t given you any thoughts!) because of your inability to resolve conflict, then the quality of your professional and personal life will greatly decline.
A second finding from the study that is of interest to us is that the best way children can develop the communication skills required for life are through organized activities. These groups should have children of varying ages, experiences, and interests, as well as adult leaders that provide guidance to the young group. The adult leaders typically have a goal they want the children to achieve together. Team sports are a good example of activities that fit the described criteria to help children develop their social skills. Even for mature adults, interacting with diverse individuals is sure to improve your communication skills.
Seeing that organized activities have such an impact on developing a child’s communication skills, it is logical to assume these activities influence an adult’s communication skills. The implications of these findings on this article are vague, but I present them to you for your curiosity. Do smarter people participate in fewer organized activities that fit the criteria of developing children’s social skills? Do smarter people participate in more singular extra-curricular activities like learning to play a musical instrument? Is their a trade-off between social interaction and increasing your intelligence? Do the less-intelligent individuals spend their time in these socially-beneficial activities instead of studying?
Regardless of the answers to these questions, one thing we do know is that social skills, and other communication skills, need to be practiced on a frequent basis. While people can naturally have the gift of the gab, be emotionally intelligent, or win friends very easily, these people will lose their skills without practice.
When a person has poor communication skills, I’ve often seen the case where they experience a “cyclic effect.” Their poor communication thwarts them from putting themselves in situations which require those communication skills, which further decreases their skills. Should a person have poor communication skills during their developmental and independent years, I believe they will struggle to improve the skill for several reasons – mostly an over-reliance on their intellect.
Logic
Intelligent people solve problems with their superior logic. They are presented with many problems which they solve using rational thinking. A dilemma arises when they attempt to solve emotional problems with their logic.
The logic dilemma is partly given birth from intelligent people loving information. Finding information makes their lives a lot easier. With the Internet being a superhighway of information, intelligent people are inclined to read, learn, and continue to analyse their issues.
However, communication skills are skills. Communication skills are not information. Any skill is developed through practice. If you’re an intelligent person, I still want you to learn about communication skills, but know that acting on your knowledge is more likely to be a bottleneck in your personal development; rather than more information.
Back to the logic dilemma, people are an illogical formula. For the smart people who don’t understand that, I’ll put in a way that you can understand. If people were a formula, they would be defined by 1 + 1 = 3. Logic and intelligence cannot explain the complexities of human emotion. Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, emphasizes the importance of emotion in human relations and not focusing on logic. He says, “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion.”
In my communication secrets of making people like you program, I define two distinguishing behaviors of those who fall into the logical trap. Firstly is a common mistake we all make – we point out the obvious. Stating the obvious is frustrating and emotionally ignorant. Some examples include:
- “Breaking up with someone is tough. Don’t worry, there’s the right person for you out there some where.” – We all know there is someone out there for us. The trouble is in finding them.
- “I can’t believe you burnt my toast. That’s stupid.” – Do you really think they burnt the toast on purpose?
- “Wow. I’m so sorry to hear about the burglar breaking into your car. You really should have locked your doors.” – Thanks for the advice. Idiot!
The second common logical mistake is making factual statements. People make the factual statement mistake when they talk about an emotional issue with logic and rational. An indicator of this type of mistake is when someone says, “You don’t get it” or “You’re missing the point.”
As an example of the factual statement mistake, Jill is talking to Michael about her recent break-up. Michael is an intelligent guy. They two have been good friends for sometime, so Jill begins to “open herself up” and discuss her broken relationship. The emotions she is communicating are discomforting to Michael. As is common with smart people, Michael perceives Jill’s affliction and his own discomfort in clear terms. He doesn’t see muddled-up emotions. He sees pain; not resentment and anguish; or hatred; not partial likeness and hatred.
Michael wants to resolve the hurt Jill is experiencing. In his black and white world, Michael sees clear emotions, problems, and provides a solution. He may use his intelligence to give advice, provide reassurance, or create some other type of communication barrier. Intelligent people are used to seeing problems, knowing what is going on, and providing a solution. The logically driven communication Michael gives Jill is frustrating to her. Jill probably just wants someone to empathize with her, but Michael is blinded from his intelligence and thinking too much. He is too intent on resolving problems and providing advice.
Logical Strength and Emotional Weakness
Intelligent people seem to think that they are stronger than their emotions. They seem to think that they can suppress or ignore discomforting personal emotions. Daniel Goleman says that it is the fears, anxieties, anger, and other emotions that guide us in our everyday lives, “Even the most academically brilliant among us are vulnerable to being undone by unruly emotions.”
I don’t advocate being psychotic or annoying to people so that you can get all your bad emotions “out of your system.” For people such as Michael in our example, the problem is in the logical reasoning that the emotions can be ignored. They may see pain as a sign of weakness. As a result, the best way to deal with the emotional pain is suppression. The thought of not being able to solve a problem causes smart people to avoid the issue.
When intelligent people can’t resolve an issue, they will likely complain and blame others for the outcome. Their knowledge and past experience in solving problems causes them to look outside themselves for a reason as to why the problem still exists. Even when blaming outside influences, a smart person may conclude that because they have an unsolved problem, it can’t be solved or it isn’t worth the effort to solve.
Pat Wagner from Pattern Research, a Colorado company that provides organisations with a very diverse range of communication development programs, says smart people have a tendency to convert their self-diagnosed failings into virtues. They use their intellect to convert their emotional weaknesses into strengths. Pat terms them as smart flaws.
One particular smart flaw used by Pat that stood out for me, because I’ve been caught out using the exact same rationalizing to excuse myself, was not engaging in small talk because I reasoned it was a time waster. Now that I’m more aware of the most common smart flaws I use, I try to stop myself in my tracks and identify the real reason as to why I’m rationalizing my behavior. Whenever I don’t talk to someone because “it is a waste of time,” it could be because I’m not dealing with my emotions such as hiding: the fear of talking to strangers, feelings of unhappiness, or the anxiety that I’ll be boring.
This leads onto another emotional weakness smart people have, particularly guys when they want to approach a woman they like – fear. David DeAngelo, expert dating coach for guys, says, “A smart guy’s strength is his mind. His weakness is often his emotions. Smart guys are often immobilized by fear.”
Women wonder why a guy won’t come up and talk to her in spite of all the obvious signals she is sending in wanting him to approach her. When the guy wants to talk to a girl he likes, his analytical mind switches on. A million thoughts, scenarios, and potential problems go racing through his head. It becomes a psychological war.
The guy’s mind has served him very well in the past to get him where he is today. Ancestrally speaking, he’s been able to identify predators, threats, and dangers to protect himself and his tribe. The analytical mind has its purpose. However, the problem for intelligent people who think a lot is they think a lot! They have a tendency to map out everything before taking action. This may cause them to lose spontaneity and avoid doing things “in the moment” in fear of repercussions. Such behaviors may manifest themselves in the form of neediness, validation, and indecisiveness.
In social situations, over-analysing is a killer mistake to make. The intelligent people try to mind-read those they are talking to. They micro-manage their interactions based on their analytical feedback which drives their fear and uncertainty in conversations.
The next time you catch yourself micro-managing your conversations and worrying about what the other person is thinking, remember that the other person is likely to be more concerned with what you are thinking about them. Remind yourself that you can’t mind read and that trying to do so only creates anxiety. Live in the moment more often and you’ll notice people naturally becoming more attracted to you. You’ll know when you’re too careless about other people’s thoughts regarding you when you begin to damage relationships or hurt others.
A few last points I’d like to make on logical strength and emotional weakness deal with conversation. We hunger for emotionally connected conversations. We love drama, fun, and controversy. Facts, logic, and technical subjects are often boring and too complex. The emotional side of conversations is more engaging to people. Academically intelligent people may focus on logic too much. Women are especially interested in any type of drama. Watch their eyes light up when you talk about the latest celebrity fashion stuff-ups and other popular dramas.
Another emotional weakness, in addition to the subject of conversations, is the vocabulary used. Academics often use technical vocabulary to prove their intelligence – a killer of rapport. Simple, duh-duh, language is often more effective than technical linguistics and non-methodologically circumstantial language that no one gives a stuff about. The same goes for writing to keep people interested. I try to write in a casual way – similar to how a conversation goes; not technical stuff, things, and other types of stuff, you know? This last reason is why so many great findings in academic journals go hidden for years – because the general public can’t be bothered reading about it.
On that last point of being too technical for people, something that may interest you is how some people write emails to me. Yeah I teach communication, but that doesn’t mean being technical, using complex vocabulary, and trying to be intelligent helps in building rapport. You can tell the difference. One example of such a “technical” email is: “Dear Joshua. Allow me to extend my formal gratitude in your beautiful array of teachings…” The intent behind such emails is great. It’s just that the person you are talking or writing to when you trying to be intelligent doesn’t experience a “connection” with you. Lots of organisations are hopeless in this when handling complaints.
Let’s compare that previous example of an email with this other example: “Hey Joshua. Thanks heaps for the articles. I’ve learned that… You’ve helped me improve my relationship with my partner.” Can you sense the difference? The last example is more friendly, but not overly casual. The person in the first example who appears intelligent doesn’t “connect” because they are too technical. Even if you are intelligent and have a complex vocabulary, you need to use terminology that the other person uses if you are interested in building rapport. Don’t try and prove your intelligence. We are interested in improving your communication skills and not boosting your ego.
Equating Intelligence to Skills
Take a moment to imagine you have travelled back in time to the Stone Age with a really smart friend. You and your friend have just arrived at a dangerous landscape. You two guys are amongst a tribe who are being approached by a couple of ferocious sabre-toothed tigers. What would you choose: Do you get help from your intelligent friend? Or would you rely on tribe members, who are only half as intelligent as your friend, but you know they have been able to survive and adapt to their environment for years?
Our trip in time to the Stone Age shows us that intelligence doesn’t equate to survival and other important skills. Those in the Stone Age are no where near in equal intelligence to people today. I remember hearing a strange statistic that the decisions we make when reading a newspaper (such as skimming sections, understanding an article, and selecting what to read) in just one day, exceeds the total decisions made by those from prehistoric times in their lifetime. The information age means we are quickly becoming an intelligent society.
Intelligent people need to acknowledge that they aren’t an expert in everything. Their intelligence doesn’t equate to effective communication skills. A person from the Stone Age is sure to teach you something. Instead of always having to be right, concede that you don’t know everything about communication. Find out the initial steps you need to take to develop expertise in an area of your interest. If you’re interested in becoming charismatic, find what you need to do first and continue asking those who have the skill what to do next – even though they may have less intelligence than you.
It’s funny how smart people sometimes think someone of lesser intelligence than them is inferior. They create a smart flaw by saying something like, “His friends are just weird. I wouldn’t want to be with them.” or “She isn’t mature like me. I’m not gonna be stupid to make friends.” I frequently have caught myself out in making similar statements. Someone with an IQ of 60 can have way better communication skills than you. Accept it. You’ll be more desirable in humbling yourself.
They Don’t Seek Help
What happens to intelligent people who are struggling in their social life? They keep quite. Intelligent people are so use to solving problems, being an expert, and logically working things out themselves that they refuse to ask others for help. They would rather freeze themselves with fear and uncertainty then ask someone about social skills. There are several very interesting reasons for this.
Not in all cases, but smart people will look down on those who are less intelligent. These people who are less intelligent may possess better social skills than the intelligent people, but there is “no way” an intelligent person can ask someone less intelligent for help. It is lowering, demeaning, and a sign of weakness to them if they were to ask for help – especially from someone who is less intelligent than them.
When helping an intelligent person improve their communication, it’s good to point out that their expertise will improve when working on their communication skills. Dale Carnegie talks about appealing to those characteristics you want in others to create those characteristics. Intelligent people know they are smart. One such statement in appealing to those good characteristics for changing the intelligent person’s behavior would go along the lines of, “You and I know you’re an intelligent person and improving your communication is another way of showing people your intelligence, expertise, and good skill-set.”
Another explanation for describing why smart people don’t get help, and a reason that I used to avoid having to ask others for help in developing my people skills, is that social skills are assumed to be natural. People skills can be a laughable skill to develop. If you need to develop your people skills, then you may get considered as a “loser.” Intelligent people can’t risk getting humiliated when asking for help, because it’s a sign that they “suck.” They need to maintain their feelings of importance and not feel inferior that is brought by seeking help.
It’s easy to talk about the importance of seeking help, but being able to do it is different. No one person on their own can gather the necessary life skills to overcome personal problems and succeed. We all have different natural abilities and experiences, and hence we require varying degrees of help. There is no shame in seeking help; only shame in not seeking help.
Someone who is of less intelligence than you doesn’t mean you can’t learn something from them. The areas of life that I consider myself very knowledgeable and an expert in, I find it very difficult to consider that someone with less intelligence, or even less skill than me in that area, can teach me something. I need to constantly remind myself that there is no shame in asking others for help and that I can learn something from everybody.
Once I remove my ego and pride, I actually find myself happier and more knowledgeable than I was before. People will be attracted to you when you’re not obsessed with always being right. Besides, asking them for their advice is sure to make them feel important and increase your personal magnetism. You don’t need to play dumb, but not showing off your intelligence to show superiority will win you friends because we hate feeling inferior to people.
“It is a real recommendation to be stupid,” says Arthur Schopenhauer. “For just as warmth is agreeable to the body, so it does the mind good to feel its superiority; and a man will seek company likely to give him this feeling, as instinctively as he will approach the fireplace or walk in the sun if he wants to get warm. But this means that he will be disliked on account of his superiority; and if a man is to be liked, he must really be inferior in point of intellect.”
There a millions of lessons waiting out there for you to take. You just need to drop your ego in order to see them. Don’t let your ego blind you from the many lessons humanity has out there for you. Doing so will prove your expertise more so than stubbornness.
I hope the article has provided you with some deep insight – whether you are an intelligent person or know of someone who is intelligent that lacks good communication skills. While intelligence is certainly very beneficial for succeeding in today’s society, effective communication skills will have you better relating to your fellow human beings. Intelligence is something you can do without, but you can’t avoid people.
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3rd Model Test paper for MPT
Hey All…..Some more to test your brains 
1. Coughing is usually considered a reflex controlled primarily by afferent stimulation of the
a. Trigeminal Nerve
b. Vagus Nerve
c. Phrenic Nerve
d. Glossopharyngeal Nerve
2. PEEP in chest care physiotherapy stands for
a. Peak Expiratory Exercise Programmes
b. Positive End Expiratory Pressure
c. Positive Endurance exercise for Pulmonary Performance
d. Peak Eletromyography and Electrocardiography of Pulmonary Performance
3. While treating patient in ward for chest care through coughing it should be ensured that
a. Sputum is not expectorated
b. The patient is in supine lying position
c. The diaphragmatic breathing not used
d. The bronchospasm is not induced
4. To determine the real leg length measurement is taken from
a. A.S.I.S to lateral malleolus on the same side
b. A.S.I.S to the great toe on the same side
c. A.S.I.S to the heel on the same side
d. A.S.I.S to the Medial malleolus of the leg
5. Ober test is used to test contracture of the
a. Rectus femoris
b. Glutens Medius
c. Piriformis
d. Illio-Tibia band
6. A 15 year old boy has pain over the Tibial Tubercle and clinically very prominent. The pain has been for four months and no history of injury and systemic illness. He most probably has
a. Osgood Schlatter’s disease
b. Rupture of Quadriceps Tendon
c. Fracture of Tibial Tubercle
d. Anterior Cruciate Ligament Instability
7. The Carpal tunnel located on the volar aspect of the wrist contains
a. Nine tendons and mediah nerve
b. Eleven tendons and ulnar nerve
c. Eight tendons and radial nerve
d. Seven tendons and median nerve
8. In electrocardiogram ‘QRS’ Complex represents
a. Atrial depolarization
b. Atrial jrepolarization and closure of semilunar valves
c. Venticular repolarization and opening of semilunar valves
d. Ventricular depolarization and it precedes ventricular systole
9. Conduction of nerve impulses is faster in Myelinated nerves because of
a. Uninterrupted flow of impulse
b. Salutatory conduction
c. Circular current flow
d. Quick reversal of current flow
10. The speed of conduction of impulse is a nerve fiber depends upon
a. The diameter
b. The strength of current
c. The muscle it supplies
d. Absence of myelin sheath
11. The elife of a Red Blood Cell is
a. 12 weeks
b. 12 days
c. 60 days
d. 120 days
12. Due to Paralysis or marked weakness of right side Zgluteus Meius the positive Trendelenburg sign results into
a. Dropping of Pelvis on the opposite side i.e. left side
b. Dropping of Pelvis on the same side i.e. right side
c. Flexion of Hip & Knee joint on the same side i.e. right side
d. Plantar flexion of right ankle to increase the length of right lower limb
13. The shortness of Tensor fasciae latae muscle causes
a. Adduction of the Hip
b. Extension of the Hip
c. Knocking (Genu Valgum) of the knee
d. Plantar flexion of the ankle
14. Thrombo angitis obliterans is also known
a. Trendelenburg’s disease
b. Thomas and Andy’s disease
c. Buerger’s disease
d. Philip’s disease
15. In Pseudo Gout the features include
a. Involvement of smaller joints and uric acid crystals
b. Involvement of large joints and calcium pyrophosphate crystals
c. Involvement of large joints and hyperuricemia
d. Involvement of large joints uric acid crystals
16. The mallet finger results from injury to
a. Abductor digiti minimi
b. Exgtensor carpi radialis longus
c. Extensor carpi ulnaris
d. Extensor tendon of the termincal phalanx of finger
17. Gower’s sign is seen in
a. Herpes Zoster
b. Sciatic Nerve Palsy
c. Duchemne muscular dystrophy
d. Marfan’s syndrome
18. Erb’s palsy is due to injury of
a. Head involving pre-central motor area
b. Pelvis involving Lumbo sacral plexus
c. Thorax involving Diaphragm
d. Upper roots of Brachial plexus involving C 5,6
19. The normal angle between vertical lines of Fermur and Tibia is
a. 7 Degrees
b. 12 Degrees
c. 1.5 Degrees
d. 0.5 Degrees
20. As per the WHO’s ICIDH classification, an impairment means
a. Pathological process due to microbes attacking a human body
b. Inability to perform activities of daily living with physiological dysfunction
c. Disabled, ambulatory on wheel chair with psychological impairment
d. Any loss or abnormality of psychological, physiological or anatomical structure or function
21. The head of femur receives its blood supply from
a. Medial and lateral femoral artery
b. Medial and lateral circumflex artery
c. Medial and lateral iliac artery
d. Medial and lateral gluteal artery
22. Piriformis syndrome involves
a. Gluteal nerve
b. Femoral nerve
c. Sciatic nerve
d. Obturator nerve
23. The thermal conductivity in the following tissues is higher
a. Muscles
b. Skin
c. Ligaments
d. Fat
24. To reduce spasticity the following modality is more suitable
a. Cryotherapy
b. Ultrasonic
c. T.E.N.S
d. Hot packs
25. In normal erect posture the Lumbo sacral angle is about
a. 5 Degree
b. 2.5 Degree
c. 45 Degree
d. 30 Degree
2nd Model Test Paper for MPT Preparation
Hi Folks….
There is another ser of 25 questions specially for you all….
1. The valsalva manoeuvre
a. Is an attempt to forcibly exhale with the glottis, nose and mouth closed
b. Increases the intra-thoracic pressure
c. Increases the intra-discal pressure
d. All of the above
2. Unilateral neglect is characterized by
a. The inability to register and to integrate stimuli and perceptions from one side of the environment
b. Patients usually ignore stimuli occurring on the side of neglect
c. Both (A) & (B)
d. None of the above
3. Monteggia fracture is described as
a. Fracture and dislocation of the lower 1/3 of the ulna
b. Fracture of the upper 1/3 of the ulna associated with dislocation of the head of radius (with or without a fracture)
c. Fracture of the upper 1/3 of the radius with dislocation of the ulna
d. Fracture of the lower 1/3 of the humerus with dislocation
4. A skin autograft is best described as
a. A graft where the skin is taken from the patient himself/herself
b. A graft where the skin is taken from another person or a donor
c. A graft where the skin is taken from another species
d. All of the above
5. Which of the following statements describes a phantom limb
a. A limb that is gangrenous
b. A limb that has lost all sensation
c. A limb that no longer exists but the patient complains of excruciating pain from its fingers/toes
d. All of the above
6. Which of the following testing procedures is used to quantify muscle soasticity
a. Pendulum test and the H-reflex
b. MMT
c. Cable tensiometers
d. Functional ambulation profile
7. On a chest X-ray the SILHOUETTE sign presents as
a. The two separate structures adjacent to each other are not identificable because of the lack of contrast in densities
b. Paralysis of diaphragm over shadows the lungs
c. Enlargement of Cardiac field in transverse direction
d. A sharp contrast between the two adjacent structures with pathological changes
8. The close packed position of Hip Joint is
a. Full Flexion, External rotation and Abduction
b. Full Flexion, Internal rotation and Abduction
c. Full Extension, Internal rotation and Abduction
d. Full Extension, External rotation and Abduction
9. The specific gravity of a human body is
a. 1.995
b. 0.095
c. 0.95
d. 9.05
10. Fluido-therapy is
a. Dry heat modality
b. Fluid immersion therapy
c. Application of analgesic fluid
d. Application of radiation through fluid
11. To calculate %age TBSA (according to the rule of nines) Left lower extremity is given weightage of
a. 9%
b. 9.9%
c. 27%
d. 18%
12. In De Quervain’s syndrome the following tendons are inflamed
a. Extensor pollicis longus and Extensor pollicis brevis
b. Extensor carpi radialis longus and Opponens
c. Extensor pollicis brevis and Abductor pollicis longus
d. Abductor pollicis longus and Extensor carpi radialis brevis
13. The SAID principle stands for
a. Specific Adaptations to Imposed Demands
b. Severe and Incurable Disability
c. Shock After Infusion of Drugs
d. Specific Amputation for Impairment and Disability
14. The three types of polio virus isolated are
a. Brunhilde, Mcmurray and Newon
b. Leon, Mcburney and Vlodik
c. Brunhilde, Lansing and Leon
d. Mchilde, Salk and Newon
15. The rate of pin rolling tremors in Parkinson’s disease is
a. 1-2 times per sec
b. 20-30 times per sec
c. 16 times per sec
d. 6-8 times per sec
16. The normal A-VpO2 difference is
a. 14.5 mm Hg
b. 95 mm Hg
c. 9.5 mm Hg
d. 55 mm Hg
17. The Bohr’s effect causes
a. Increase of hemoglobin level
b. Loading of CO2 and unloading of O2 in blood
c. Loading of O2 and unloading of Co2 in blood
d. Loading of CO2 and unloading of NO2 in blood
18. The resting membrane potential of skeletal muscle fibre is
a. -90 mv
b. -0.9 mv
c. -0.09 mv
d. -0.009 mv
19. The commonest site of Myositis Ossificans Traumatica is
a. Brachialis
b. Extensor carpi radialis longus
c. Triceps Brachii
d. Brachioradialis
20. The clinical Triad of Reiter’s syndrome consists of
a. Hepatitis, arthiritis and otitis media
b. Hepatitis, arthiritis and conjunctivitis
c. Urethritis, conjunctivitis and crystal formation
d. Urethritis, arthritis and conjunctivitis
21. The ideal length of stump amputated below knee should be about
a. 5 cm
b. 7 cm
c. 30 cm
d. 14 cm
22. The Dielectric constant of tissues with high water content
a. Is less than the Fatty tissues
b. Is less than the bonny tissues
c. Is less than the skin
d. Is more than the tissue with low water content
23. The Dielectric constant of water is
a. 8.1
b. 81.1
c. 18.1
d. 1.08
24. The cavitation effect of ultrasound application to human body is
a. Micro-massage
b. Rise in local temperature
c. Analgesic effect on nerves
d. Gas bubble in tissues
25. The cross section of a muscle is equal to
a. Width X Thickness
b. Length X Width
c. Length X ½ Thickness
d. 2 (Thickness) + 2 (Width)